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Leading With Maturity, Equanimity and Grace |
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It is a fact: I began my career in Unitarian Universalist Churches over 36 years ago as the Assistant to the Minister at Unity Church Unitarian in St. Paul, Minnesota. I was 29, newly divorced, and the mother of a two year old when I began work at the church in a job loosely defined as Church Secretary/Facilities Manager/Secretary to the Minister. It also included, I quickly discovered, being the secretary to anyone who entered the doors of the church at any given moment!
Before leaving for theological school and formal preparation for the UU Ministry, I worked in that position as it evolved to include the Director of Religious Education duties and supervision of the growing staff. For five years I gained valuable hands-on experience about the many aspects of church leadership, lay-leadership and servant-leadership.
Last year, at the 2007 General Assembly, I spoke about my experiences as the Assistant to the Minister at the Association of UU Administrators (AUUA) at their annual dinner. I recounted my first day on the job which included assembling the newsletter, printing and folding it, running the copies through the ‘addressograph’ machine, sorting them by zip code, and taking the bundles to the post office. It could have easily been the only day of my church career as I was so exhausted at the end of it. Necessity brought me back the next day, and love for the people and the church kept me returning.
Then, one morning, I found a note left on my desk by a leader of a group which had met the night before. It said simply, “You have roaches in your kitchen.”
Of course I had to deal with the roaches.
I also had to come to terms with the implication that it was my kitchen, especially when it had roaches! I had to consciously decide just how much I needed to prove that it was not my kitchen, and if they would clean up after themselves we wouldn’t have to worry about roaches. I opted not to enlarge the roach-ness of our church, tempting though it was. It was the first in a long line of decisions made on behalf of the church rather than my personal need to make a point.
The people sitting at the front desk of a church, part time or full time, at a small, medium, or large church, feels its emotional life wash over them. I learned that, like the weather outside, churches have their own weather. Whether the front-line people are paid staff or volunteers, it is important to remember to be aware of the whole and not become distracted by the temporary dustups and rain showers.
Most importantly, during those five years I learned how valuable the people are who answer our church phones, respond to questions and greet those who tentatively come through our doors in the middle of the week wondering if our church is for them. I know how significant the people are who can call our long-time members by name and are genuinely happy to see them. Having sat in that chair for five years, I also know it often requires maturity, equanimity and grace.
There was no AUUA to support church administrators then. There were no list-serves or mentors to whom I could go with questions. What a huge difference these networks make in the lives of the people who are the voice and the face of our churches to our members and prospective members. They are often the first ones to say, “Hello” and “How can I help you?” or "Welcome". This work is extremely important to the health of our congregations and the growth of our membership.
When I am UUA President, I will use my knowledge and experience from those years, and all the years since, to continue my support for all who work in our churches, representing us on the phone and in person to anyone who calls or comes through the door - and to ensure that those who answer your calls and emails, and who welcome you to UUA Headquarters, will have the resources and support to serve you well.
Laurel Hallman
You can read the full text of my 2007 AUUA talk by clicking here. |
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It is easy to believe UU congregations are independent - which they are. It is easy to believe we are autonomous - which we are. It is easy to believe the connections between and among our congregations are largely functional; based on sharing good ideas or programs - which they often are.
And then our hearts are broken by Sunday’s devastating shooting in Knoxville and we re-discover the deep and abiding love that truly connects us.
Today someone called our church to express condolences at our loss. I was touched by her recognition we, in Dallas and across the country, are in mourning for our sister congregations in Knoxville.
We are connected in so many ways we can name. This week, as we mourn the tragic losses in Knoxville, may we reclaim the unnamable connections of our faith that bind and bond us and, with hope, remember that love will carry us through. |
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Celebrating Our Religious Freedoms |
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As I reflect on this important day of celebration of our country's freedom and religious freedom, I am reminded of many things from the 2008 General Assembly. I have been participating in our General Assemblies since 1973, and once again, have come away challenged, moved, and touched deeply by my reconnection with old friends and colleagues, and encouraged by the exuberance of our youth and young adults. From the spectacular celebration of "The Sources" at the Opening Celebration, to Van Jones' electrifying Ware Lecture, Rev. Marlin Lavenhar's moving Sunday Sermon, to the Closing Ceremony, it was a memorable General Assembly.
If you are reading this, you are one of the many wonderful people who make our Unitarian Universalist faith tradition an outstandingly positive force in the world. Thank you for all you do in service for your congregation and community.
For the Hallman Campaign, GA 2008 was a very busy event! Our booth in the exhibit hall was staffed by volunteers from congregations all over the U.S. They did a marvelous job of sharing information as it was a busy place with many opportunities to learn, to have pictures taken and to find out more about the UUA Presidential race.
During the week I attended the ministry days, attended program sessions, talked with many people who were there, and held small group meetings with several leadership groups to learn more about their current concerns and their visions and aspirations for the future. I participated in the Green Candidates’ Forum; the DRUUMM, ARE, and LLUUNA Candidates' Forum; and the GA Candidates' Forum on Saturday evening.
I am delighted with the reception to my ideas and goals for the future of UUA and I value the input provided during these events.
One GA event I always attend is the Service of the Living Tradition where we honor the memory of ministers who have died in the last year, express our appreciation for ministers retiring and enjoy the energy of new ministers starting their careers in this exciting time for UUs. This year was especially significant for me, as my mentor, the Rev. Roy Phillips was named in memoriam, and my ministerial colleague at First Church, Dallas, the Rev. Xolani Kacela was recognized as having Preliminary Fellowship in the UUA. As we develop plans for a future of deepening and growth in our congregations, this annual service is a special reminder of the importance of continuity and energized leadership in service to our faith tradition.
I look forward to working with you over the next year as we enjoy our religious freedom in this amazing country and move toward a new era for communicating and sharing the liberating religious message of Unitarian Universalism.
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Developing Social Justice Partnerships |
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Watch Video of Laurel's Statement
Early in my ministry in Dallas I met with Ernesto Cortes, Jr., the organizer for the Industrial Areas Foundation in the Southwest. Perhaps you know the IAF as an outgrowth of the Saul Alinsky organizing in Chicago which grew into a method of community organizing in many areas of our country.
Ernesto impressed me from the start. He is multi-lingual in spoken language, in his ability to speak across class and race, and to bridge the many other ways we separate ourselves from each other, even in community. He impresses people near and far: when I asked an experienced community organizer I knew in another state about him, she said, “Ernesto Cortez is the best organizer in the United States.”
When we met in the late ‘80s, Ernesto Cortes had already gathered the Catholics and the Lutherans in Dallas. Would our church join the beginning of a community organizing effort called Dallas Area Interfaith? It seemed to me to be a perfect way to involve our church members in effective action in our community. In the years since, the members of our congregation have worked tirelessly to get after school programs for children in our public schools, 200 additional police on the Dallas Police Force, public safety issues, public housing to address Katrina Relief needs, accessible and affordable health management and medical care. The DAI is now focusing on immigration issues. The Dallas Metroplex is among the 20 top areas in the world in number and diversity of people immigrating here.
On May 29, Dallas Area Interfaith held a meeting with representatives from member churches, to ask members of the Plano City Council and the Plano Chief of Police for their support in calling for a comprehensive national plan to work constructively to manage the issues of undocumented people living and working in our communities. (Plano is a major suburb north of Dallas.)
It was well attended by citizens and immigrants from the Plano area, ministers from the Plano community and members from our church who are from all over the Dallas area; over 200 people in all. There were speeches, breakout sessions, and the accountability requests for the elected officials and the Chief of Police. Everything spoken into the microphones was immediately translated into Spanish and available by headset.
Willie Bennett, our local organizer, and Ernesto Cortes asked me to be part of the panel of ministers and to close the program that evening with brief summary and call to action as we would need to get the program completed in time for the 10pm news.
Please see the linked video of my remarks. Ernesto Cortes is standing behind me and Willie Bennett is the organizer who speaks to him during my brief speech.
It was a powerful experience for all involved and one of the many ways UU’s in Dallas and UU's across the country have worked in strategic partnership for social justice in their region -- and have had a significant impact successes as a result. |
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Yesterday afternoon I conducted a Memorial Service for a woman who has been a Unitarian Universalist almost all her life. She was 93, and among her many interests were the arts, the League of Women Voters, and the issues of “Yellow Dog Democrats.” She was very active in our Women’s Day Alliance group.
As I was standing outside the door of our Raible Chapel before the service began two of the long time pillars of our church approached me. When they asked me how the campaign was going, I told them about some of my recent activities - I’ve been to Atlanta, Georgia to preach at the Installation of Rev. Anthony David, to St. Paul, Minnesota to participate in a memorial service for Rev. Roy Phillips, to Baltimore to deliver the annual Union Service in honor of William Ellery Channing, and then to lead the retreat of the Joseph Priestly District UU Ministers in Delaware. One of them said, “Remember when you were just back from observing the UUA Board meetings and told us all about it? You were so excited!” she said.
She was right, I am excited! I love board meetings when the people who hold our churches, and in this case, our association, in trust, are clear about their tasks, know who they are serving, and participate fully in significant values-laden decisions.
I was impressed by the work of our UUA Board. I know not all of the board’s decisions have been welcomed in the larger association and I come to the Presidency with a vision of new possibility. While I was there I was reassured by the board members’ integrity, skill and call to serve our larger association. I have a keen sense we could work well together in our respective roles and responsibilities.
In the midst of my travels I have been thanked by people for my “sacrifice” in running for UUA President. I have appreciated their gratitude. However, I need to say this is not a sacrifice. I am excited to play a larger role in an institution that serves its people and its mission well and makes effective use of its resources. The possibility of bringing my skills and experience to the table to do such work as President of the UUA is a joy! |
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